One More Survey…

1. What’s your usual Starbucks order?

Hot cocoa or food. I used to WORK at a Starbucks…but I still don’t like coffee.

2. What does your workstation look like?

My workstation is either my coffee table or the shelf J built me to write on the treadmill. (He’s so cool, right? He BUILT me a laptop shelf for the treadmill.)

3. Favorite food?

When you boil it all down, bread with butter on it. Seriously. I love all kinds of food, but that’s probably my favorite.


4. Favorite author?

Can’t choose just one here. SO…Augusten Burroughs, Toni Morrison, Barbara Kingsolver, John Green, Kurt Vonnegut, Sherman Alexie, Rebecca Wells, Carrie Fisher, Maya Angelou, Amy Tan

5. What do you think of open relationships?

I think they work for some people for sure. I know of at least one couple who is happily married in an open relationship. I don’t have a moral problem with any way consenting adults run their lives. Who am I to judge? But I will say for me personally, I couldn’t do it. Frankly, I still think it’s a miracle that I connected to ONE other person enough to be happy in a romantic relationship. J’s enough for me. I hope I’m enough for him too. But if there are folks out there who are happier and more fulfilled, who can and want to connect to more than one person, and their partner(s) are all consenting to that? I mean, good for them. I dig love in all its forms.

6. What is your favorite video game?

I’m wholly disinterested in video games. I guess my favorite one is whichever one my son likes playing the best at the time.

7. Guilty pleasure treat?

I try not to feel guilty about things that give me pleasure. Seriously. A lifetime of conditioning to feel bad about everything that makes me feel good…like I don’t ‘deserve’ to feel good…that pleasure must be ‘bad’…I mean…I put in a lot of effort to unlearn that. So…I don’t have a ‘guilty pleasure.’ I just have things that give me pleasure. 

8. Favorite movie?

Ghostbusters. But wow, there are so many movies I love. I kind of hate ‘favorite’ questions.

9. Favorite book?

Omigosh. All of the books I’ve written about or mentioned in some form on this blog that I didn’t write are my favorites. I’ll list a few here…The Bean Trees by Barbara Kingsolver; Song of Solomon by Toni Morrison; Lust and Wonder by Augusten Burroughs; Turtles All the Way Down by John Green; Little Altars Everywhere by Rebecca Wells; The Color Purple by Alice Walker; A Man Without a Country by Kurt Vonnegut; You Don’t Have to Say You Love Me by Sherman Alexie; Shopgirl by Steve Martin; Charlotte’s Web by EB White

10. Twitter or Instagram?

Neither. Blogging is honestly the only social media I’ve ever enjoyed participating in. If you can even really call this social media. ???

11. Desktop or laptop?


12. Best advice you’ve ever received?

People who love you don’t want you to suffer.

13. What project are you working on right now?

Writing a sequel to my novella, Opening Doors

14. Favorite color?

Blues and Yellows, but…I love all the colors. 🙂

15. Did you get good grades in school?

Yes. I was a straight-A, high test score nerd.

16. Dream job?

Living the dream, baby. Mom and wife and love story writer.

17. Play any sports?

No but I love to watch a lot of them.

18. Do you have a degree?

Yes. Summa cum laude in Political Science.

19. Nationality

American. Mostly Scottish and German ancestry.

20. What is your favorite kind of blog post?

To read? Personal anecdotes…someone working out a problem in writing or realizing a greater self awareness in writing, or just telling a story that makes me laugh or go ‘awwwww!’ through writing.
To write? Probably the same thing.

21. What do you like to collect?

Hugs from J. 🙂 I can’t get enough. (I know…I was asked though).

22. Describe yourself in three words?

Honest, Anxious, Kind

23. If you were a rapper what would your stage name be?

I can’t say what my real rapper name would be here, because it’s a nickname from youth that might identify me. But hey…for the like 3 or 4 blog readers who might have actually known me in youth…can you guess what it is? If you want to know, message me. I’ll tell you if I trust you enough. Haha!

24. Who was the last person you DM’d?

My friend M.

25. What’s on top of your wish list right now?

To have people valued over money in public policy.

26. Sorting house?

Ravenclaw with Hufflepuff tendencies.

27. How many tattoos do you have?


28. What are you most grateful for this year?

J. That’s really not different than any other year since I’ve known him, but wow. This past year has really shown me the man J is and he’s just…amazing. I am extremely fortunate to have him be the man in my life.

29. What’s the best thing that’s happened to you this month?

I got some good medical test results. I’ve been making progress on my current writing project.

30. What’s the best thing that’s happened to you today?

I woke up! Hugged and kissed J when he left for work. Hugged my son before school.

31. What’s the best thing ever?

Time with J and my son. Talking to my best friend. Writing love stories. Dogs.

32. Favorite season?

Summer. That’s when I get the most time with J and my son.

33. Favorite holiday?

I don’t really like holidays. I’ve written a few posts about that before. But I guess if I had to choose a favorite one, Valentine’s Day would be it. A day to celebrate love. I didn’t used to feel that way when I was a single gal, obviously. And I’m still not really all that much of a, ‘YAY! VALENTINE’S DAY!’ person. Or any other holiday for that matter. But yeah…a holiday about expressing love? That’s my jam, I guess.

34. What fictional character do you relate to most?

Mirabelle from Steve Martin’s Shopgirl. Daria from the MTV cartoon. Amelie from Amelie. Eleven from Stranger Things. Walter Mitty. Ned and Chuck from Pushing Daisies. Deb from Empire Records.

35. Do you like surprises?

Only if they come from J.

36. What’s the biggest surprise you’ve ever had?

J got me tickets to an Eric Hutchinson concert for my birthday one year. And he got me play tickets for Mother’s Day one year. Both of those were amazing surprises that I was totally not expecting even a tiny tiny bit.

37. Which surprise made you cry?

I lost my first pregnancy. Not a good surprise.

38. What’s the best surprise you’ve given somebody else?

I don’t know. I don’t normally surprise people. I give gifts, which aren’t planned out, but they normally come at expected times, and you’d have to ask the somebody else’s I have given gifts to what the best one was. That’s not really for me to say.

39. Do you like muffins?


40. Do you cook often?

Yes. Almost every day. I like cooking and I’m addicted to watching cooking shows. Haha!

41. What’s your favorite dessert?

Ice cream, probably.

42. Is there a dessert you don’t like?

Haha! Great question! Because…Nope! 🙂

43. Cake or pie?

Pie, but I like a good cake too. 🙂

44. What’s your least favorite food?

Lima beans. Anything too heavy on the vinegar.

45. What’s your favorite condiment?

Hmmmm…is cheese a condiment? Butter? Jam? I like all kinds of toppings and sauces and things.

46. It’s 4 am on a random Saturday. What are you eating?

4 am?! Um…I am sleeping. I am not eating anything.

47. If you could teach a college class what would it be called?

How to Say ‘No’ and Have People Pay Attention

48. Best animated film?

Lady and the Tramp

49. What has a guy done or said to impress you?

J committed to me. Wholeheartedly. Anxiety and all. That impresses me every day.

50. Best thing to do on a first date?

Laugh. That’s also the best thing to do on any date.

51. Worst thing to do on a first date?

Ignore boundaries.

53. Best comic book character?

Raven and Wonder Woman, DC Comics. Steve Rogers and Black Panther, Marvel Comics.

54. Name three things which can always be found in your purse.

I don’t carry a purse. So 3 things in my pockets when I go out…keys, phone, credit card.

55. Favorite drink?

Caffeine Free Coke Zero

56. If you could play a historical character in a movie who would it be?

Margaret Sanger

57. Kittens or puppies?

Puppies. Kittens are adorable, but I’m a dog person.

58. Favorite sushi roll?

California rolls.

59. What lipstick do you use?

Don’t use any.

60. What foundation do you use?

Don’t use any.

61. Blow dry or air dry?

Depends on if I have to leave my house, how much time I have to get ready, and how cold it is outside.

62. Who is your fashion icon?

I don’t have one.

63. Favorite Disney Character?

Dug from Up! and Remy from Ratatouille if you count Pixar. Belle and Rapunzel if you don’t count Pixar.

64. What are you doing tomorrow?

Don’t know, really. Normal Tuesday stuff. Take The Boy to school. Work out. Do some housework. Hopefully write.

65. Movie you laughed the hardest through?


66. Movie that made you cry?

Crap, a whole lot of them. Stand By Me. Dead Poets’ Society. Steel Magnolias. Anything where the dog dies.

67. If you could sing a duet with anybody, who would you choose?

I would never sing a duet with anybody. Because I can’t sing and I’m extremely shy. BUT…if I could sing, I’d sing with Bruce Springsteen or Eric Hutchinson or Michael Stipe.

68. If your life was a song what would the title be?

My life actually IS a song title. They Might Be Giants’ ‘Someone Keeps Moving My Chair.’ Haha!

69. What’s your favorite animal?

Dogs. Elephants. Cheetahs. Pinnipeds.

70. Favorite illustrator?

I’m going to go with comic artists…Bill Watterson, Charles Schultz, Chris Riddell, Catana Chetwynd, Yehuda Devir, Curtis Wiklund, Phillippa Rice, Puuung

71. The person you want to have coffee with?

I don’t like coffee, but I’ll always pick J. Or my best friend, A.

72. What country would you like to visit?

I dunno. I don’t really have grand travel ambition. If I could speak the language the majority of people spoke there with fluency, I’d say everywhere. But I can only speak English and marginally understand some Spanish and German. And I honestly don’t really want to go anywhere. Travel is normally pretty stressful for me. I love all kinds of world history and culture and international cuisine. So I guess I’d like to experience that THERE, wherever there is, theoretically. But the thought of actually GOING to China or India or Chile or New Zealand or Botswana or Egypt is kind of daunting.

73. Best way to decompress?

Hot bath. Snuggling on J. Listening to music (and maybe singing along with it).

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