On April 2, 2005, I married J.
We got married in a Catholic church, and for those of you readers who are not Catholic, nor international news followers, that’s the day Pope John Paul II died.
We were honestly a little unsure our wedding would even happen, but of course it did.
And J and I got married on an austerity budget for a big wedding. We had lots of family there with us, but I made all of the decorations and flowers myself. And the pope dying that day, while it was an obviously sad day for his family and friends and the church as a whole in the world, ended up being a bit of an unexpected blessing for us. The church was beautifully and lavishly decorated with flowers for our ceremony, because they’d been added to mourn the pope.
The wedding ceremony was pretty nerve wracking for two introverts who hate being the center of attention, and it was stressful trying to make sure everyone else was having a good time and had everything they needed on what was supposed to be ‘our day.’
I’m glad we had the wedding we had, to celebrate with some of our older relatives that weddings were important to, who are now no longer with us. But even if J and I got married alone at a justice of the peace somewhere, or never even got married, our love would still be just as strong, just as secure, just as meaningful, and just as worth celebrating.
So for all of the couples out there who have had to alter or postpone their wedding, here’s a list of what I think is the best music from 2005, the year J and I got married.
- Beverly Hills by Weezer
- Sugar We’re Goin’ Down by Fallout Boy
- Lose Control by Missy Elliott
- Wake Me Up When September Ends by Green Day
- She Will Be Loved by Maroon Five
- Feel Good Inc. by Gorillaz
- Drop It Like It’s Hot by Snoop Dogg and Pharrell (of COURSE…haha!)
- Ordinary People by John Legend
No matter when or where or how you end up celebrating your wedding…your love still matters to your family and friends, and to me, and to the universe. Your connection isn’t canceled. ❤